Blog | Thinking of Oscar

Cookbook4Oscar – Friday November 27th 2015

Thank you to all of you who contributed your favourite family recipes to our cookbook. The response that we received was overwhelming. It...

Reality Check – Tuesday October 20th 2015

I stopped by Oscar’s Grave today. It’s not something we do daily or even every single week because it doesn’t get any less devastating to...

Sunny Lives, Rainy Days – Sunday October 11th

It has been a while since I put pen to paper. Often times, now that some of what I write ends up on the Thinking of Oscar website, I...

Vulnerability – Sunday August 2nd 2015

Had a new experience today. David pointed out a cut that Barney has behind his ear. Just one of those cracks that you get if you don’t...

Barney – Sunday July 26th 2015

Barney Arthur Cole was born on Tuesday 26th May. He was born at home at 06:19, seconds before Holly emerged from her room, so she met him...

One Year On – Friday June 19th 2015

Today marks one year since Oscar died. On the one hand we cannot believe we have survived without him for this long yet on the other hand...

Hatchlings – Monday 30th March 2015

We’ve had some interesting conversations with Holly over the past few days which are different to conversations that we’ve had before....

New beginnings – Sunday 8th March 2015

In the very first weeks after Oscar died David and I talked a lot about the impact of his death on Holly. I remember the feeling that...

A Life Worth Living – Saturday February 28th

Eight months down the line I am thinking about how we survive. The first thing that I always cling onto is the hope that you cannot...

Our trip to Singapore – Monday 23rd February

On reflection our trip to Singapore to participate in the round the island ride that you may have read about was a positive one. We had...

An Update on Oscar – Tuesday February 10th

We have learnt a lot about ourselves and about life since Oscar died. The latest lesson that we learned is that positivity only gets you...

Christmas Eve – Wednesday December 24th 2014

So Christmas is nearly upon us. We had originally said that we weren’t overly worried about Christmas Day because the hardest days are...

The Passing of Time – Monday 10th November

Since Halloween several people have sent us wishes saying that they are thinking of us, especially as the run up to Christmas begins. It...

Life in Layers – Thursday 2nd October

When people ask us how we are it’s a very big question to answer. I’ve learned to gauge what they are wanting or expecting to hear and...

Holly’s Birthday – Monday 22nd September

Today is Holly’s 4th birthday. She had a really lovely birthday weekend and had a tea party with her cousin and a couple of friends on...

The First 12 Weeks – Wednesday September 12th 2014

This time twelve weeks ago it became apparent that the course of our life was about to take a terrible turn and, as events quickly...

Bedtime – Saturday August 23rd

Holly caught me by surprise a little at bedtime tonight. We had taken her to a local music festival and she’d really enjoyed the music....

Oscar’s Funeral – Wednesday August 6th 2014

Today Oscar would have been 18 months old and instead we buried him. Funnily enough it is ten o’clock at night and that’s the first time...

Holly – Tuesday July 8th 2014

Holly had an amazing day today. Debbie, at nursery, had organised to release some balloons in order for the children to say goodbye to...

Finding a Path – Sunday July 6th 2014

In the first couple of days after Oscar died we were really good at sounding positive. We said his life could not have been in vain. We...